Pastor’s Pen: For her, save everything

“You have to try it out to know if you like it.”

That’s what I call the “car philosophy” many use when speaking about women. “You don’t just buy the first one you see. You have to sit in it, test all the buttons and take it for a spin.” Though that is a reprehensible description of a woman and how you should treat her, let’s play it out.

Yes, I do all those things with a car I want to buy; but none of that makes me appreciate the one I already have. In fact, it gives me the desire for something different. I had a friend in college who owned a Mustang. It was a sweet car and I envied it every time I hopped in my not nearly-as-new Ranger.

One day I had dropped my truck off, but forget to leave the keys. I asked my friend if he could run me over there. He was studying, so he threw me the keys to his Mustang and said, “Here, take my car.” I was amazed. Who would ever hand over the keys to such a nice car? I was nervous and excited at the same time.

It was great to be seen in that car. But driving my friend’s Mustang didn’t cause me to grow in appreciation for my vehicle. In fact, it increased my desire for a sport’s car! I didn’t just want to drive someone else’s; I wanted my own.

This is what happens when premarital intercourse, adultery or even pornography take place in a man’s life … or a woman’s. They became less satisfied with the one they have because they desire something else they think will satisfy and make them happier.

I look at cars and nice trucks wishing I had something different, but I don’t. I have this one and I only appreciate it more by focusing on it and recognizing the good things about it. Your wife is like that. You aren’t supposed to try out different ones, trade them in for a newer model or wish she had the features of the one you saw on TV.

You are supposed to “rejoice in the wife of your youth”, let her “satisfy you always”, and “be captivated by her love” (Proverbs 5:18-19). Appreciate her for who she is and “love your wife, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.” (Ephesians 5:25)

The wife you have or will have one day is more valuable than the most expensive sports car in the world. If you have one, appreciate her. If you don’t, save everything for her.