This past Sunday I spoke at a church that I had never been to before. They were a great group of people, very welcoming and hospitable. When I was about to get up to speak I felt I should tell them a little about myself. I told them where I was from, where I went to college and where I lived now. During the message they also learned about my love of NASCAR and a fraction of my time spent in Ecuador. That night, however, as I talked to our teens in youth group on the topic of dating I realized that, just like a date, the people there only knew what I told them. They only saw what I presented and I was certain to put my best foot forward. And, just the same, I only saw what they presented to me. As Joshua Harris said in "I Kissed Dating Goodbye," it was an “artificial environment for evaluating one’s character.”
I wonder how many times we do that week in and week out? We go to church or community events where we will see other children’s parents or certain people and make sure we only show what we want them to see. They never get to see the real you or me. They don’t truly know what your life is like or what you enjoy or fear or sin you struggle to resist. It’s all very surface level with a shallow hole where we put only those things we want others to find.