PASTOR'S PEN: A wasted day

Every once in a while I make my way to a band concert, basketball game or other event in which some teens from our youth group or ones I know from school are involved. At other times I’ve had a group of guys over to just play video games for a few hours. Others, I’ve taken on a trip to Walmart, the movies, a figure eight or fishing. I don’t say that to brag, but to admit that there are many times that I wonder if it really matters at all. “Are those times just pointless activities where nothing is being accomplished or is there some purpose to it?” Then, not long ago, I read this paragraph:

“Brooks Adams, son of Charles Adams, U.S. Ambassador to Great Britain under the Lincoln Administration, was only 8 years old when he wrote in his diary one afternoon, ‘Went fishing with my father; the most glorious day of my life.’ Unaware of this, his dad also kept a diary, and he too had marked a comment about that same day and event. ‘Went fishing with my son; a day wasted.;"*

It seems it all has to do with perspective. To one it was the greatest day ever; to the other it was time frittered away. The father wasn’t considering the son’s perspective. Christ said it this way in Luke 6:31, “Do to others as you would have them do to you.” What would I want people to do for me? Well, when I was sitting home bored one night a friend from church called up and said, “Hey, you wanna come over for dinner?” It probably wasn’t a big deal for him. He could have cleaned his guns, done some painting on his house or a host of other important and purposeful activities. But, instead of those, he invited me for dinner. To me, it was a great night and I really enjoyed it. Hopefully to him it wasn’t seen as time squandered.

So how do you view time with your kids? What about time with teens in your church? How about sitting and shooting the breeze with your neighbor down the road? It may not get the laundry done faster or change the oil in the car any sooner, but it’s certainly not a waste – it’s a way to show the love of Christ.

*Kendrick, Stephen; Kendrick, Alex; Alcorn, Randy (2013-12-02). The Resolution for Men (pp. 110-111). B&H Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.