By Matthew Lukshaitis Pine River Area Schools Superintendent At a certain point, all of us fail. When we fail at something there are two\u00a0mindsets which seem to stand out\u00a0\u2014\u00a0the mindset of the resilient and the mindset of\u00a0the defeated. The resilient mindset says, \u201cI will achieve success because I will\u00a0learn from this opportunity.\u201d The defeated mindset says, \u201cThis was too hard for\u00a0me. Clearly, someone else is forcing me to fail and is therefore at fault.\u201d The resilient seek success; the defeated seek blame. To paraphrase Wayne Gretzky, we miss 100 percent of the shots we don\u2019t take. While\u00a0the "Great One" was referring to scoring goals in hockey, he may as well have\u00a0been talking about life. Personal success comes from attempting, from\u00a0scrambling, from grappling with problems and from finding solutions that fit. It\u2019s a\u00a0process, victory and success. Trying the same thing over and over again and\u00a0expecting a different result just doesn\u2019t work. There\u2019s another paraphrase for\u00a0you, this time from Albert Einstein. The resilient mindset sees opportunity at every corner and in every instance.\u00a0This mindset sees the beach and the sunshine; the defeated mindset sees the\u00a0ingredients for storm clouds and rain. How do you want to live your life? What\u00a0do you want your legacy to be? Who is looking to you to set an example? How\u00a0do they perceive you? Do you quit when you fail at something or do you find a\u00a0new way? Are you full of hope and energy at work and at home? Have you\u00a0been with that friend who makes fun of everyone and everything? It is far easier\u00a0to laugh at people and circumstances than to try to understand them. One note\u00a0here: our kids watch us and model themselves after us. Character is revealed when we meet failure. Rising up to challenge ourselves\u00a0and demonstrate our faith, our beliefs, and our moral courage is risky and\u00a0threatening when we are afraid of failure (accompanied and magnified by cruel\u00a0laughter, threats and mocking commentary). Of course it is far easier to fail and\u00a0retreat than to move forward and struggle. Most success stories include quotes later from the successful which start\u00a0something like this, \u201cIt was hard work, but \u2026\u201d The rest of the story usually goes\u00a0like this, \u201cBut I was resilient. I didn\u2019t let failure stop me. Or 50 failures stop me.\u00a0Or one million failures stop me.\u201d For the resilient mindset, failure is temporary. Not to be forgotten, but used to\u00a0find the right key to open the next locked door. For the defeated mindset, failure\u00a0is permanent. Not to be forgotten, but used to purchase more locks to make sure\u00a0the next door stays locked forever. Talk to your kids about overcoming obstacles in life. Help equip them with the\u00a0tools they need to achieve. Start with the heart and build their minds. Together\u00a0we can achieve greatness; alone we suffer needlessly in silence.